Just a somewhat brief message......
I spent the majority of May, and the first week of June emailing back and forth with these ladies. This was last year. They wouldn't divulge any cycle information, and were unsure of an actual ovulation time period. I offered to make the 9 or 10 hour drive to them, or meet halfway, as I am clear over in east Texas. We did have great conversation, and they did ask a ton of questions. I was as informative as I would be with any recipient. I shared photos of myself and my children with them, but received none in return. Regardless, I moved forward with the attempt to set up a general time frame for conception. Then "IT" happened. They just up and disappeared. No more emails, nothing. I simply assumed that they had found a much closer donor, and neglected to inform me. So I moved on to my next recipient. I understand that recipients can get cold feet upon occasion, and I respect that. This recipient has me wondering, though. I almost feel like I wasted a month, that could have been spent working with other recipients, based on their past actions and the other donor complaint.
On a positive note or three.......
I keep detailed records of all communication with my recipients. My last email with them was June 6th of last year. I remember them, as they were to be one of my last two couples to help, prior to the birth of the latest addition to my own brood! My little princess was born in August, and we have since celebrated her first birthday.
Since this couple in question has resurfaced, and is apparently acting exactly as before, I thought I would make folks a bit more aware. Personally, I wouldn't offer to drive to them, again. Were they to contact me, they would have to come to me this time! I love magic, but did not applaud their disappearing act. For whatever reason, an email takes just a few moments, ladies. A bit of advice going forward; don't lead your donors on. Whether they are your primary donor, or one of a string of backup donors, just let them know where they stand. Communication is key!
Have a great day!
East Texas
On Sep 14, 2012, at 6:05 PM, Magen Roubison <roubison92@yahoo.com> wrote:
> is there anyone close to clovis new mexico that can come to me this weekend
>
> [from group owner ML:
> 1) As ever, we recommend against donating or using a donor at short
> notice. Better to miss a cycle than inseminate in haste and repent at leisure.
> 2) There has been a complaint from a donor about 200 miles away that he
> offered to meet you half-way for AI, or travel to you for NI, but he
> never heard back. Please reply to all reasonable offers from donors,
> even if it's just to say that they're not what you're looking for.
> ]
>
